Episode 148

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13th Nov 2023

Ep 148 - Breaking Free from the Yes Trap

Welcome back to another episode of the Influence and Impact Podcast. Today we're diving into a topic that many of us struggle with: saying yes to things we don't really want to do. As female leaders, we often find ourselves taking on tasks that aren't our responsibility, and it's time to put a stop to it. I’ll be sharing strategies and practical tips to help you reclaim your time and energy by breaking free from the Yes trap.

 

We will explore the reasons behind our tendency to say yes when we want to say no. Spoiler alert: it often stems from our desire to be liked. We'll also dive into the societal pressure for women to be constantly agreeable and how it impacts our progress in the workplace. 

 

I’ll be sharing strategies to help you break this pattern, including using holding phrases to manage expectations, creating a checklist to decide when to say yes or no, and communicating clearly when declining a request. We also discuss how to navigate non-promotable tasks and the importance of assigning them fairly to avoid overburdening certain individuals. 

 

On a more personal note, I will be sharing my current journey with my son who recently experienced a health scare that led to a diagnosis of type 1 diabetes. I'll share the symptoms we noticed, the process of getting a diagnosis, and the importance of raising awareness about this condition. 

 

So, stay tuned for an episode packed with insights and practical advice to empower you to stop saying yes to things you don't really want to do. It's time to take control of your time, energy, and influence. 

 

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Carla Miller

Carla Miller has 16 years of leadership coaching experience, a background in CEO roles in the charity and commercial sector and is an established expert in women’s leadership. She is the creator of the Influence & Impact program which has helped hundreds of women from companies including GSK, BT, Google, Channel 4, Muller and Deloitte to become influential leaders and secure promotions to senior leadership and C suite roles. She is the host of the global top 2% Influence & Impact podcast and has over 220,000 downloads. Her book ‘Closing the Influence Gap: A practical guide for women leaders who want to be heard’ is an Amazon bestseller for leadership and was named by Management Today as one of the books every leader should read in 2022.